Trauma Recovery is Possible
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Trauma holds us back when we don’t know how to move forward. We often hear comments like, “move on,” or “just let go,” but how?
I am here to help you move through the roadblocks, which are stopping you from find your true self. Growing up in a narcissistic, psychopathic, alcoholic, or toxic household can cause many different trauma responses that may have hindered your self worth, your sense of self, self motivation, passions, other relationships, your overall health and well-being, and many other areas of life. Coaching can help you identify which areas of your life you are wishing to change to focus on your future.
Intergenerational Trauma
Intergenerational trauma can be passed down from generation to generation through parents, who don’t heal their own past trauma and continue to parent the way their parents parented them. It is a devastating cycle that has to be broken in order to heal and find peace.
The many years of the familial abuse cycle will continue to cycle until we take a stand and say, “It stops with me!”
Chemistry is often just Familiarity.
Adults who have been abused by family members can be led to find abusive significant others. The traits of the abusive significant other in our lives feel similar to what we grew up with, so that makes us more vulnerable and unaware of the toxic traits during the early months to years. You may feel stuck and unaware how to get yourself out of the toxic situation.
There are many individuals who have not been abused by their parents and family members that end up in toxic relationships. The reason why this happens can vary for many different reasons: being bullied throughout school could lead to low self esteem and self worth, which could cause a person to be an easy target for love bombing or the manipulative and abusive person could have targeted the individual because they were a challenge to break, they sought out a very sensitive or highly empathic person, or the toxic person was just very, very charming until their true self was revealed.
Focusing on yourself can stop the cycle of abuse for you and your family or future family by unlearning behaviors you may have picked up, learning essential boundaries and coping skills, and learning what you want out of your future.
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How Does Coaching Work?
Coaching is not therapy. Unlike therapy that continuously focuses on the past, coaching focuses on how you are currently and where you want to be in the future. Focusing on the present and future is beneficial to individuals, who want to get through their trauma and emotional roadblocks. Setting goals for self improvement and having required accountability makes sure that individuals can move forward without having constant reminders of their past.
We do discuss the past in coaching when necessary. Discussing the past in early sessions is important so we have an understanding of what you’ve been through, your emotional roadblocks, trauma, and issues in your life.
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Our overall goal is to improve your life by using tools to create boundaries, healthy coping skills, navigating through toxic relationships, navigating through no or low contact, and unlearning unwanted behaviors.
Coaching represents lifestyle and behavioral changes that are needed to create a healthy, happy, and successful life.
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​Coaching services provided by Sarah Marie Vu are not mental health treatments and do not substitute for therapy, counseling, or medical care. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please seek help from a licensed mental health professional or call emergency services.
How Do I Know Coaching is for Me?
If you are struggling with what to do after you have experienced abuse of any kind in your past, a narcissistic, psychopathic, alcoholic, or toxic person in your life, whether it is a parent, family member, friend, boss, coworker, partner, ex, and/or spouse, and you want to focus on your present and future self, coaching may be for you.
As a Certified Coach, my coaching models primarily focus on identifying and working through:​​
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Toxic relationships
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Boundaries
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Navigating no contact​
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Navigating low contact
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Understanding Trauma
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Stress Management
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Codependency
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Hyper-independence​​​
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Creating healthy coping mechanisms.
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Transforming unhealthy behaviors into healthy behaviors.
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Resistance to change.
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Establishing healthy habits and building a healthy relationship with self.
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Understanding your true self.
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Striving to enhance quality of life.
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Pursuing goals for the future.
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​Moving forward.
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​Life skills.
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Finding your life purpose.
All sessions are online and in Eastern Standard Time (New York time).
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Regardless of your location and time zone, coaching is still available to you.​​
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